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Tuesday, February 1, 2022

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers (Book Review)

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers Book Review
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Redeeming Love . . . the movie is out, and everybody is talking about it.  Well, almost every woman I know is talking about it.  I wasn't aware of this new movie until a few friends expressed interest in seeing it.  When I asked them about it, they told me the basics.  It's a story based on the book of Hosea in the Old Testament section of the Bible.  It's a love story written by Francine Rivers.  I mentioned that before I see the movie, I would like to read the book, so a friend loaned me the book. However, before I began reading the novel by Francine Rivers, I decided that I had better read the original historical event from the Bible itself first.  So I did.

I was disappointed.  Now, it grieves me to say I was disappointed in a book of the Bible.  That sounds downright shameful, so let me explain.  

I had never actually studied the book of Hosea.  I had read parts of it here and there when pastors or Bible study leaders had referred to it.  However, I had never actually studied it.  I expected to read 14 chapters of an amazing love story detailing the relationship of a fallen Gomer who marries Godly Hosea.  

Nope.

Let me say this: The biblical book of Hosea is not a love story. The relationship between Hosea and Gomer is only briefly described. The book is about God's frustration and anger toward Israel. God tells Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer. The relationship between the two represents the relationship between God and Israel.  

Hosea marries Gomer out of obedience.  She leaves him to return to prostitution several times.  At one point, Hosea buys her back.  We really don't know much more than that.  We don't know if Hosea ever actually falls in love with Gomer, and nothing about the Biblical story tells us that she ever falls in love with him.  God tells Hosea to marry her.  He does.  She leaves him several times.  He brings her home.  They have kids.  God tells Hosea to show love to Gomer, but showing love is not the same as falling in love.  We really just don't know.

Gomer's habit of leaving Hosea despite his provision for her is a representation of Israel's habit of leaving God to worship false gods despite His provision for them.  

The book of Hosea describes God's anger with Israel and His plan to bring them back to Him. He will allow suffering, let the Assyrian army overtake them, and allow them misery so that they will eventually return to Him. There are fourteen chapters describing this. You can read the entire book here at Bible Gateway.

The Biblical book of Hosea describes God's plan to allow Israel to suffer so that Israel will return to Him. The relationship between Hosea and Gomer represents the relationship between God and Israel. Given this information, we might assume that Gomer eventually is faithful to Hosea, but we are not given this information in the book of Hosea. We have no idea.

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers

On the back cover of the novel, it reads:

A powerful retelling of the story of Gomer and Hosea, Redeeming Love is a life-changing story of God's unconditional, redemptive, all-consuming love.

The novel Redeeming Love is NOT a retelling of the story of Gomer and Hosea in the Bible. It simply is not. They are two very different stories. The rest of that claim is true. The story of Angel and Hosea in Francine Rivers' novel IS a story of God's unconditional, redemptive, all-consuming love.

Before you accuse me of nit-picking, I'm not nit-picking, and here's why.

God's Word is holy, true, living, and active. It was written by human men but inspired by a holy and just God. It is never to be misrepresented.

I don't think Francine intended to misrepresent the Bible.  I think she read the Biblical account, and it inspired her to write this novel.  There is nothing wrong with that, but we, as Christians, are to be vessels of truth, so when we see that something in the Bible is not truthfully represented, we need to point that out and take heed.

God's love is unconditional, redemptive, and all-consuming, BUT God is also just.  He will not stand for His Word to be misrepresented, so just note that this novel (as beautiful as it is) is not a retelling of the Biblical story of Hosea and Gomer.

I mentioned that Redeeming Love, the novel, is beautiful, and it is. I liked the book, and I recommend it. I'll get to the things I like about it later, but first, it is important to point out another problem.

God would never have called a saved-by-the-blood Michael Hosea to marry an unsaved Angel, and here's why.

God will never call someone to do something that contradicts His Word.  

Do not be mismatched with unbelievers for what do righteousness and lawlessness share together, or what does light have in common with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14

God, in His Word, tells Christians not to marry a non-Christian.  He will not call someone to do something contrary to His Word, so He would never have called Michael Hosea to marry Angel.  

How do we know Angel is not a Christian?  Because she rejects God and anything to do with Him her entire life.  

Christians and non-Christians often marry. Once they do, they have created a covenant together before God so that the covenant is not to be broken. It is to be God-honoring. There are certain circumstances where someone may be released from this covenant, such as abuse or infidelity. However, God will not call someone to an action that contradicts His Word.

Marriage was handled differently in the days of the Biblical Hosea and Gomer. Hosea and Gomer were under Old Testament Law. They didn't yet have the book of 2 Corinthians. The story of Michael Hosea and Angel in Francine Rivers' novel takes place in the early 1800s. Michael Hosea and Angel are accountable to 2 Corinthians 6:14.

Now that I've revealed those two things, I'll tell you why I liked Redeeming Love, and I think you will, too.

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers Book Review
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The rest of my review may contain spoilers - just so you know.

Francine Rivers does not hold anything back.  This novel, as beautiful as the story is (now that we've separated it from the Biblical story and assumed that Michael had not understood 2 Corinthians 6:14), is not easy to read in some places.  It's hard.  Angel, unlike Gomer, is a victim of sex trafficking. She didn't get to the age of 22 and decided that she liked sex and realized she could make money doing it.  She was sold into prostitution as a child at the age of 8.  

She is 8 years old.  She is sold to a man who has a thing for little girls.  Let that sink in.

Once sold in, she can't just leave.  She is trapped, and the only likely way out is death.  She has been used and abused brutally her whole life.  

Angel had been born out of wedlock which was not well taken in those days. Her mother had an affair with a wealthy married man.  At the news of the pregnancy, Angel's father wanted her aborted.  Her mother kept Sarah (Angel's birth name) and loved her.  Angel's father had kept them in a cottage where he would regularly visit her mother, but eventually, he deserted them.  Sarah and her mother had to move several times.  Sarah's grandparents wouldn't take them in.  They ended up in a shack where her mother became a prostitute to make money for food and shelter.  

Angel's life is hell on earth until Michael Hosea rescues her.  

Michael takes her to his farm. Angel's past haunts her. She doesn't know Michael, and she doesn't trust him. In her mind, he owns her, just like every man she has ever known.  

Michael loves her anyway.  

She leaves.  He goes after her and brings her back.

This is the beautiful part of this novel, and I couldn't put it down for many chapters from this point on. Michael Hosea represents God's unconditional, unwavering, all-consuming, REDEEMING LOVE for us. Angel represents our sinful human nature, which constantly fights the urge to run away from the God we love—and sometimes we do. Like Michael brought Angel home, God is continuously reaching out to us to bring us home.  

In the end, after Angel's final run away, Michael doesn't go after her.  He wants her to return on her own.  During Angel's last "adventure," she finds her faith in the God that Michael had so faithfully tried to show her.  God shows Angel something He wants her to do.  In obedience, she starts a ministry of sorts to help girls who are just like her.  She teaches them to read, write, cook, and sew.  Then, with the help of local churches, the girls are placed in jobs where they can make a living free of prostitution.  

Eventually, Angel returns to Michael.  She tells him her birth name is Sarah, and they start all over.  

Now, I have to complain again.  At the end of the story, when Angel returns home, she approaches Michael's farm.  She sees Michael working outside. As she approaches him, the husband she hasn't seen or heard from in three years, she begins taking off her clothes.  After about 460 pages of traveling with Angel on her journey to redemption, she strips outside as she approaches the husband she left three years before.  I know he's her husband, but they have not seen each other since.  No communication.  No letters.  Nothing.  Michael doesn't even know where she is for three years, but she strips as she approaches him outside on their farm.  To me, this makes her seem cheap again.  Why not have her approach him with her clothes on?  Have them TALK for at least a hot minute about this situation first.  Save the stripping for inside the cabin at least a few minutes later. Goodness . . . 

A side story throughout the novel involves Michael's brother-in-law and a family that becomes their neighbor.  The brother-in-law gave my heart grief the entire time.  I couldn't stand him for several reasons.  I intended to include a piece of my mind about him in this review, but ultimately, I decided to leave it out.  You'll just have to read the book to get his story.

The very last chapter gives us the rest of the story.  Francine tells us what the future holds for Michael and Sarah.  Redeeming Love is the perfect title for this book.

In conclusion, despite the things that bothered me about this book (and some things that bothered me a lot), it is a beautiful story of God's redeeming love.   

I wouldn't call this book the best I've ever read, but I enjoyed most of it because even though there were "flaws," I think Francine's intention is realized: to point us to the God who redeems. The story of Michael and Angel is really beautiful.

I am getting conflicting opinions about the movie, and now that I've read the Biblical account and the novel, I can see why there is controversy. I do plan to see the film and write a review of it, too. 

Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers Book Review
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Personal Application

Are you haunted by the sins of your past?  

Here is a truth for you.  God can redeem you, too.

No matter what you've done, you are never too far gone for God to reach you.  Your past can't keep Him away.  Like Michael longed for Angel to return home to him, God longs for you to return to Him.  

He's waiting for you.  

You can learn more about how to receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior here.  

It's never too late. No height, depth, or width is too high, deep, or wide for God.  

Just come home.

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The Redemption Series by Karen Kingsbury

While studying the book of Hosea, I used my Beautiful Word Coloring Bible.  I enjoy coloring the designs already on the pages, but if you are creative, there is plenty of space throughout the Bible for you to design your own or use the space for journaling and study notes.   I have this version.

Sunday, July 11, 2021

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible: A Review


The Thompson Chain Reference Bible: A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible: A Review


Disclosure Statement:  I received the Thompson Chain Reference Bible from Zondervan via the Bible Gateway Blogger Grid Program in exchange for my honest review.  Neither Zondervan nor Bible Gateway influenced my opinion in any way.  My review is totally my own and in my own words.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible


I own several types of Bibles but I've never owned a chain reference Bible so I was interested in finding out what makes the Thompson Chain Reference Bible different from any of my other study Bibles.  This Bible has a concordance in the back like most study Bibles have but it offers way more than that.  This Bible is packed with resources to help make the most of your Bible study time.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Makes a Great Gift

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Makes a Great Gift
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible makes a great gift.


If you are considering offering a Bible to someone as a gift, this one makes a great gift.  There is a page in the front of the Bible where you can write a presentation message and a date.  There is plenty of room for you to write your name and a special message for the gift recipient.  This Bible is one that will most likely be kept and used for many, many years.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible offers a complete system of Bible Study


The Thompson Chain Reference Bible: A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible offers a complete system of Bible study.

This particular Thompson Chain Reference Bible is written in the New America Standard translation, featuring the 1977 text in both the old and new testaments.  You'll enjoy a complete numerical system of chain references, analyses of books, outline studies of characters, unique charts, pectoral maps, and archaeological discoveries as you can see from the photo above.  

Who is Dr. Frank Charles Thompson?  

Dr. Frank Charles Thompson was a young preacher in the late 1800s when he became disappointed with the reference Bibles being used by preachers. Dr. Thompson believed Bible study tools should be presented in a simple but scholarly way. He saw the need for a well-organized reference Bible that would be of practical use to the lay reader as well as to preachers. In 1890, Dr. Thompson began the work he would continue for the rest of his life. He completed a series of "thought suggestions" opposite key verses throughout the Bible. These are what became the "chain links" that comprise the heart of the Thompson system. Continue reading more about Dr. Thomspon here.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Table of Contents 

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible: A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Table of Contents

Here is a peak at this Bible's table of contents.  The first section tells you where to find specific helps.  This table of contents looks much like one you will see in other Bibles, but there are a few extra helps such as analytic and synthetic systems of Bible study and practical advantages of using this particular study Bible.

Comprehensive Bible Study Helps

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible: A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Comprehensive Bible Helps

The comprehensive helps section is packed with reference materials covering principles of Bible study, Bible character studies, and Bible harmonies and illustrated studies.  Learn more about your favorite Bible characters such as John, Paul, Peter, and so many more.

Tips on How to Use the Chain Reference Feature


The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review

If you look at the left margin on the first page of the book of Genesis above, you'll see key words with numbers beside them.  For example, if you look at the word "Day," you see the number 920 just to the left of the word.  To follow the chain references for the word "day," turn to the Index of Chain Topics and find the number 920.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Index of Chain Topics

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible System

Once you find the number you are looking for in the Index of Chain Topics, you'll find other references for that key word.  In the photo above, you'll see that for the word "day," number 920, the general references for the word "day" are listed as Genesis 1:5, Genesis 8:22, Psalm 74:16, and Jeremiah 33:20.

The Hebrew Calendar

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review
The Hebrew Calendar

Other than the Chain Reference System as pointed out in the above brief explanations, the Thompson Chain Reference Bible offers other helpful Bible study tools as well, such as the Hebrew Calendar as outlined in the above photo.  In addition, you'll enjoy using this Bible's general index which is much like the one you are likely accustomed to using.  You'll find the character studies section helpful and interesting.  Further toward the back, you'll find a section about prominent characters of the Bible classified with the meanings of their names.  There is a section for men and a section for women characters. There is a history of the apostles outline, Isaiah's portraits of Christ, and synoptic portraits of Christ.  

Other sections include portraits of Christ, The Gospel of John as a Picture Gallery . . . and so much more.  If you are looking for a good study Bible, this is one you will want to add to your Bible study library.

The following page shows us places of religious worship during Bible times.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review
Places of Religious Worship

The following page shows us an aerial view of the portion of the mound of ancient Sushan, the city of Queen Esther and King Ahasuerus.

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Back Cover

The Thompson Chain Reference Bible:  A Review
The Thompson Chain Reference Bible Back Cover

The back cover gives us another brief overview of what the Thompson Chain Reference Bible offers.  As the cover states at the top, this study Bible is an easy to learn, easy to use tool for in-depth Bible study.  It will make a great addition to your Bible study library.

You can read more about the Thompson Chain Reference Bible on the Bible Gateway blog here.

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Monday, May 24, 2021

The Redemption Series by Karen Kingsbury: A Baxter Family Series Review

Karen Kingsbury has become one of my favorite Christian book authors.  Her books are relatable because they deal with real situations that all of us face at one time or another.  I have enjoyed several of Karen's stand alone novels that address religious liberty, parenting a child with autism, abortion, broken relationships, renewed relationships . . . you name it.  If you can think of a real life situation that could challenge the faith of even the most faithful, Karen Kingsbury has probably written a story about it.  I recently finished the first five books in Karen's Baxter Family Drama Series.  The first five books are called the Redemption Series.

Karen Kingsbury's Redemption Series won Christian Retailing's 2005 Retailer's Choice Award for Best Series.  Karen wrote the Baxter Family Series for a joint purpose with Gary Smalley.  Each book highlight's a different theme regarding relationships.  Each book offers study questions at the end of the story and then gives you a sneak peak into the next book.  

Redemption Series by Karen Kingsbury
The Redemption Series by Karen Kingsbury - Baxter Family Dramas


The Redemption Series by Karen Kingsbury:  A Short Synopsis Book Review


Book One:  Redemption

Book one of the Redemption Series is titled . . . you guessed it . . . Redemption.  Redemption is a novel that challenges our human ability to forgive.  In this first book of the Baxter Family Series, we are introduced to Kari Baxter.  Kari is excited about the possibility of teaming with her husband, Tim, to offer marriage counseling for couples at their church.  Kari barely has time to think through her plans when she learns that hubby, Tim, has been having an affair.  Tim eventually tells Kari that he no longer loves her and he wants a divorce.  Kari believes God has called her to remain with her husband and fight for their marriage.  

Admittedly, I don't know if I could do what Kari did in this book.  Personally, I believe the Bible tells me that I don't have to remain with a cheating husband but the point here is to tell you how Karen writes Kari's story and in this story, Kari remains faithful to what she believes God has called her to do.  In the end, God rewards Kari's faithfulness.  

Redemption is a story about perseverance, faithfulness, and forgiveness.  Through this story, I see how God calls people to do things we might think is unnecessary or even crazy in order to fulfill His purposes in the lives of His people.  God can redeem the most hopeless of situations.  

By the end of this first book, I think you will love the Baxter family.  I also think you might be inclined to offer forgiveness more freely to those who offend you.

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Book Two:  Remember

In book two of the Redemption Series, we learn more about Kari's sister, Ashley.  Ashley has returned from Paris with a deep secret that haunts her.  She feels like noone, not even God, would forgive her mistakes.  Ashley takes a job at a home for Alzheimer's patients.  She develops friendships with the residents, especially a woman named Irvel who continues to demonstrate a love for her longtime late husband, Hank.  The love that Irvel and Hank had shared is a love that Ashley can only dream about no matter how hard Landon Blake tries to capture Ashley's heart.  

In book two, Remember, we find ourselves back on one of the most heart wrenching Tuesdays many of us will ever remember, September 11, 2001.  By now, you have been introduced to all of the Baxter family siblings in some way.  September 11 becomes close and personal to some of the characters, especially the Baxter family youngest son, Luke, and his girlfriend, Reagan.  

So far, in Redemption (book one) and Remember (book two), the reader has worked through the Baxter family's perseverance and faithfulness to God through infidelity, adultery, and national tragedy.

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Book Three:  Return

In book three, Return, Karen writes a story that grips many hearts of Christian parents around the world, the reality of a child gone astray.  I mentioned earlier that September 11, 2001 was a day that personally affected a few characters.  The Baxter's youngest son, Luke, was especially changed by the events of that horrible day.  Luke turns from his faith, changes his appearance, and leaves everything precious to him behind, including his family.  

Luke is known as John and Elizabeth Baxter's golden boy, their only son, and youngest of their 5 children.  After September 11, Luke's relationship with his Reagan is broken.  In the months ahead, Reagan moves back to New York to live with her mother where she delivers Luke's son, a baby Luke knows nothing about.  

Through months of heartbreaking revelations and the faithful prayers of his parents, especially Luke's father, John, this book is about Luke's return home . . . home to his family and home to his faith.  

I'll leave one piece of information to your reading.  Will Luke learn that he is a father?  Will his relationship with the baby's mother, Reagan, be renewed?  

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Book Four:  Rejoice

Book four focuses on another Baxter sibling, Brooke, and her husband, Peter.  Like Kari and Tim, Brooke and Peter are struggling with a troubled marriage.  Brooke and Peter's troubles are different from Kari's and Tim's.  Their problems will resonate more with couples who grow apart more gradually through life circumstances.  In Rejoice, Brooke and Peter's youngest daughter who cannot swim falls ends up in the pool without her life jacket while attending a friend's party.  

Hayley's accident destroy's Peter.  Through circumstances that are sure to separate Brooke and Peter while forever changing the lives of the entire Baxter family, we learn how God can work through a family's worst nightmare to renew relationships in ways that only God can do.

By the end of this book, through all the pain and suffering of these first four novels, the Baxter family has a reason to rejoice.  The family, John and Elizabeth along with all 5 Baxter children, are reunited at a special wedding . . . a wedding that at one time seemed as though it would never happen - another relationship renewed through circumstances that only a faith in a sovereign God could accomplish.

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Book Five:  Reunion

The first four books in this Redemption series taught us about four of John and Elizabeth Baxter's 5 children.  In book one, we learn about Kari.  In book two, we learn about Ashley.  In book three, we learn about Luke.  In book four, we learn about Brooke.  In Book five, Reunion, we learn about another Baxter sister, Erin, and her husband, Sam.  

Erin and Sam never had biological children in spite of their desire for them.  After moving to Texas, they decide to adopt a baby.  The adoption process for Erin and Sam takes an unexpected turn that leaves Erin and Sam in the middle of a fraudulent situation and eventually without the baby for which they had prepared.  

With Erin and Sam in Texas and Luke in New York, Elizabeth wants a reunion with all their children together.  As all the children arrive at the Baxter house, John and Elizabeth prepare to tell them a secret they've hidden from their children for as long as they could.  Revealing this secret is sure to result in more heartbreak and yet again a challenged faith for this Godly family.  

I grew to love this family as I laughed and cried with them through this first series in the Baxter Family Dramas.  This family grew in their faith as they bonded over triumphs and tragedies that included so many life circumstances including troubled marriages, infidelity, adultery, abortion, a prodigal son, a child drowning, infertility, adoption, national tragedy, two devastating health diagnoses, broken relationships, parenting nightmares . . . and I'm leaving a few things out so I won't reveal everything before you have a chance to read these books. 

I will add that through all five books, book five was the one that ripped my heart into a million pieces.  I highly recommend reading them in the order presented here.  Reading the Redemption Series in order will give you the full effect like watching a movie series in order.  If you watch, or in this case read, out of order, you can probably still enjoy the stories, but reading in order will give you the full effect in time order.  

Book five revealed yet another Baxter family secret.  I won't reveal the secret except to say that it leads us directly in to the next 5 book series called Firstborn.  I have all five of those books sitting right next to me as I type this and I can't wait to start reading them.

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Saturday, January 23, 2021

Smitty, A True American Hero by Jimmy Hope (Book Review)

 

Smitty A True American Hero by Jimmy Hope
Smitty, A True American Hero by Jimmy Hope
*The author of this novel did not provide me with a free copy of this book in exchange for a positive review, nor did he ask for a positive review. I bought the book myself and the following is my honest review.

 "The slamming of a fresh ammo clip into an M-1 carbine shattered the silence of the night."

Well, that got my attention. I was hooked from the first sentence of Jimmy Hope's novel Smitty, A True American Hero. 

Smitty, A True American Hero by Jimmy Hope (Book Review)

By the end of the second chapter of Smitty, A True American Hero, I had already developed a soft spot for Smitty.  Smitty was no stranger to hard work and hard times.  The era was that of World War II.  Times were tough for most, but Smitty's circumstances were particularly challenging.  He was a 19-year-old young man with a huge responsibility on his shoulders.  It was all he could do to keep his family fed, clothed, and sheltered, and the future was anything but hopeful.  Then, he was drafted into the Army during World War II.

As I traveled through the story, I developed a fondness for other characters:  Smitty's mother (Hannah), his sister (Maria), and his friend (Johnny).  I had developed a lack of fondness for a few characters as well.  As I was reading this book, I got lost in the story as if I were there, living out circumstances and challenges with the characters.  Characters became like family, friends, and in some cases, foes.  Author Jimmy Hope has a way of writing that keeps you wondering what will happen next.  One minute, I'm cruising happily through the story, and then BAM, a punch in the gut.  I'm either laughing or crying, but either way, I never saw it coming.  He can turn a story on a dime, making you rejoice one minute and grieve the next (or vice versa).

The story of Smitty's young life and transformation from boy to man during World War II will be loved most deeply by lovers of historical fiction, but it will also be appreciated by lovers of clean romance novels, lovers of faith-based novels, and those who love meaningful stories with enough comic relief to keep readers laughing, crying, empathizing, rejoicing, and grieving with the characters they love.

Smitty, A True American Hero is a novel that takes the reader through the challenges of an economic depression, the horrors of war, and the sadness of separation from loved ones during a time when there were no internet connections, video chats, or cell phone communications for families of deployed loved ones. The reader experiences the joy of new relationships and the pain of tragic loss. It's a heartfelt story of life, love, and triumph over tragedy.

There are life lessons to be learned throughout the novel.  Smitty trusted God with his life.  He remained faithful to Him in the midst of temptations.  When he was deep in despair, it was his faith in God's sovereignty that brought him out of the valley.  He rejoiced in God's blessings.

As I read this story, one particular line stood out to me that can be applied to our current lives whenever we are faced with fear.  I'll leave you with this quote so you can decide to which situation in your life it can be applied.

"Fear was a strong and ever present enemy, and he knew that fear never stops death.  It stops life."

Smitty, A True American Hero is a story you will not want to miss.  

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Thursday, May 7, 2020

Redemption by Karen Kingsbury (Book Review)

A little while back, I read my first Karen Kingsbury book.  I had been hooked on Amish romances, but someone highly recommended a book by Kingsbury so I read it.  I don't know why it took me so long to read one of her books!  I've heard her name for years, but for some reason, my eyes had not landed on one of her novels until fairly recently.  Since then, I've read several of her books and have loved every single one.  I've heard a lot of good things about her Baxter family series so I thought our current COVID19 "quarantine" would be a good time to start reading those books.  The first book in the Baxter family series is Redemption and it did not disappoint.  Was there any doubt?

Redemption by Karen Kingsbury - Book Review
Redemption by Karen Kingsbury


Redemption, as did Kingsbury's other books, had me immediately captivated.  This book, as captivating as it was, was also a hard one to read.  It wasn't hard to read due to the writing.  The writing was great!  It was the content that was so hard to grasp.  In Redemption, we are introduced to the Baxter family, a family of loving parents and several adult children.  The focus of this story is on Kari Baxter Jacobs and her husband.  Kari's husband teaches at the local university.  One evening, Kari is stunned to learn of her husband's affair with a student.  Kari believes God has taught her that love is a decision and God wants her to fight for her marriage.

Some readers might misunderstand this book to push the belief that God wants women to stay with husbands who mistreat them.  This is not what the Bible teaches but this is also not what Kingsbury is trying to teach her readers.  I'm a Southern Baptist raised woman.  I'm as conservative as they come and I believe that unfaithfulness in a marriage gives a woman Biblical grounds for seeking a divorce.  This is not the message Kingsbury is pushing.  In her story, Kari's personal testimony based on her relationship with God is that He wants HER to fight for HER marriage, not that this is what all women should do.  I need to add, however, that some women in real life situations similar to Kari's have felt this same calling on them as wives of unfaithful husbands and they have incredible personal testimonies of God's faithfulness to them and their families. I have always wondered how some women can come to the same decisions as Kari Jacobs.  This story helped me see how they do.

I can't relate to Kari's marital circumstances but I can relate to the need for redemption.  We are all fallen.  We all need redemption.

There are other plot twists to keep you guessing about how the story wraps up.  Kari has an ex-boyfriend, one who broke her heart many years ago.  Now, he's back in her life.  His presence makes Kari's fight for her marriage even more challenging.  Kari has other sisters and a brother.  They each have complex personalities, interests, and beliefs.  They were all raised by the same loving, Godly, and well grounded parents but they are all different, molded from different life experiences of blessings and brokenness.

As you flip through the pages of this first of many in a vast series of Baxter family stories, you'll laugh, cry, rejoice, and hurt.  Your heart will break, but also learn to heal. 

Redemption by Karen Kingsbury
Redemption by Karen Kingsbury

If you are someone who can relate to Kari's story on a level that I cannot, I hope you will find her story inspiring, even if your choice is different from hers.  My personal prayer for you is that you will be encouraged by this fictional story and that you will gain a desire to seek knowledge, understanding, and wisdom from the only source of real truth concerning marriage and relationships, the Bible.

Marriage is not the only area in our lives that can produce a broken relationship.  This book demonstrates how God can heal any kind of broken relationship even if restoring the relationship seems hopeless.

At the end of the book, there is a list of discussion questions to help you discover a deeper understanding of the story and applications to your own life.

I can't wait to start the next book in this series, Remember.  I'll let you know what I think.  :)

Other books I've read and recommend by Karen Kingsbury:

Unlocked

One Tuesday Morning

Beyond Tuesday Morning

Remember Tuesday Morning

Shades of Blue 

Oceans Apart 

On Every Side  

Where Yesterday Lives

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UPDATE:  Since I wrote this post, I have finished all five books in the Redemption Series.  You can find my review here.

Sunday, April 12, 2020

Free of Me: Why Life is Better When It's Not About You by Sharon Hodde Miller

Free of Me by Sharon Hodde Miller is a book intended to help us be free of self focus.  Miller isn't writing necessarily about the kind of self focus that comes across as arrogant.  She's writing about another type of self focus, the kind that is much more subtle in most cases.  She writes about the kind of self focus most of us are guilty of nurturing without knowing it.  She opens her book with a phrase by Rick Warren, "It's not about you."  This phrase is not intended to scold, but rather to set the tone of the chapters ahead, explaining why "it" really is not about you.  "It" refers to the way we see ourselves inside the whole scope of God's plan for all creation.  It's not about me.  It's not about you.  It's about God.  Yes, God loves you.  In fact, He adores you.  Yes, He created you for His glory and He does have a plan for you woven into His beautiful tapestry of all of creation and life but if we make ourselves, though unintentionally, the focus of our own path through time, our focus is on the wrong person.  Our focus should rest on God.

Free of Me by Sharon Hodde Miller, Book Review
Free of Me by Sharon Hodde Miller, Book Review

Free of Me by Sharon Hodde Miller


The introduction sets us up for the big picture.  We learn that realizing that it's not about you is actually freeing.  Someone reading this right now has been hurt by someone, rejected by someone, and perhaps abused by someone.  Maybe someone was rude to you today.  When these things happen to me, I take them personally.  I let hurts fester down the core of my being.  I admit it.  This is an area where I struggle, but as Miller points out, when we make things about us that are not about us, it is a heavy burden to bear.  Realizing that all the hurts are not about you, but about them, you are free to let go of the hurt.
Self focus hurts our relationships, shrinks our faith, kills our confidence, and ultimately steals all our joy.  When it creeps into our families, our friendships, and our work, it turns the beautiful into the burdensome. - Sharon Hodde Miller, Free of Me
One of the first things we learn about is the mirror reflex.  This is something we all do whether we realize it or not.  There are several aspects to the mirror reflex but let me rest for a second or two on the people pleaser.  That is pretty much me.  I'm a people pleaser.  I want people to like me so I work hard to please them.  Serving others is indeed valuable in our Christian walk.  We need to serve others, but are you serving them because the Holy Spirit has prompted you to serve them or are you serving them so that they will like you.  If I am totally honest with myself, I have done both.  Yes, I serve by Holy Spirit prompting, but I am also guilty of serving so others will like me and so others will know that I am a good Christian woman.  The latter two are self-focused, not Christ centered.
This is how subtle self focus can be.  It doesn't always look like a devil with horns.  It's gradual and quiet and it creeps in on the back of good intentions.  I wanted to be a good person, and I wanted to be liked, and that desire became idolatry of self. - Sharon Hodde Miller, Free of Me
Miller goes on to explain that the mirror reflex is a powerful thing because it is often applied to our relationships with others.  Other people can become a reflection of our self worth.

Miller dives into the area of self esteem, quoting studies by researcher Jean M. Twenge which reveal that over the past 40 years, give or take a few, that there has been a drastic increase in self help books and focus on self esteem.  However, self esteem and self worth are not the same thing.  More and more people have become self focused which has led to an increase in self preoccupation.  We have become a people constantly seeking affirmation, but a constant hunger for affirmation only feeds our self focus resulting in deeper insecurity.

I love the phrase Miller uses when she refers to some Christian self help books.  These books are not necessarily bad.  The authors write with good intentions, but they serve only to provide their readers with a "mirror with a Jesus tint."
After all that work to boost self esteem, some people became self absorbed.  Instead of raising people with a high self esteem, we raised narcissists. - Sharon Hodde Miller, Free of Me

 Miller takes us through 7 mirrors that feed our self focus.


1.  God and the Bible

Treating God and the Bible as if they are all about us can make our faith small and powerless.  The Bible is a book about God, not about us.  I am reminded of a previous study centered around a book called Women of the Word:  How to Study the Bible with Both Our Hearts and Our Minds by Jen Wilken.  l recommend her book with helps us see the Bible for what it was meant to be seen, a book about God and nothing else.

To focus on the one true God, we need to recognize several false me-centered gods.

a.  The self help god.

This god serves to help you feel better about yourself.  Miller points out a truth that most of us have not thought about when we read stories about our "Bible heroes."  She points out that when Moses was worried about his ability to speak and Jeremiah was concerned about his age, God didn't praise their abilities.  He didn't give them pep talks.  He didn't build them up.  Instead, God turned the focus back on Himself.  He took the focus off of their limitations and placed it on His own power and goodness. Moses, Jeremiah, and others were freed from relying on their on weakness and insecurities.  The focus was removed from the humans who could not and instead was placed on the God who can.  They were free to place their trust in Him alone.

b.  The self serving god.

This god serves you to make your life easy and great.  It is all about what God can do for you.

c.  The self exalting god.

This god exists to make you look good in public.  However, Miller tells us that "glory is a seducer and praise is addictive."  We have to be careful with this because over time, a desire for constant affirmation becomes your way of life.  However, Miller goes on to explain that desiring praise from God is not necessarily a bad thing.
We can and should seek God's praise, but approval is only sweet if it directs our attention back to Him. - Sharon Hodde Miller
d.  The self image god.

This god is a combination of all the others.  It serves, exalts, and affirms you.  It looks just like you.

2.  Family

Miller introduces a term called image management.  This is when we attempt to manage the behavior of others because we believe it reflects on us.  We act not out of love for them, but for ourselves.

I agree with Miller that her description of image management is not a good thing, but I don't necessarily agree with everything she says in this particular chapter.  Maybe it's not what she says that I disagree with but the way she says it.  I'm not sure how to express my thoughts and I don't want to get into that here and now, but if you decide to purchase this book, I'd love a discussion about it in the comments.  I'm interested in what you think.

I do believe this.  Parenting IS a high calling and for some women, perhaps it IS her most important calling.  I agree with what Andy Stanley said of parenting when he stated, "Your greatest contribution to the kingdom of Heaven is not something you do, but someone you raise."

I think that perhaps I interpreted some pages in a way that doesn't reflect the message of the book.  I felt like Miller, though unintentionally, may have cheapened the high calling of parenthood.  Again, I don't that that was her intention.  In one particular passage, I felt like a young person or teenager might take the entire message the wrong way and perhaps he or she might decide that he or she is justified in rebellion.

Miller spent several pages writing about various parental and family responsibilities while reinforcing her point that competition in those areas results in the mirroring effect that results in self focus.  I agree with most of that to some extent, but I also think she was overthinking most of it.  Perhaps I'm overthinking the whole thing.  When you read her book, I'm interesting in your interpretation of this section.

I completely and wholeheartedly agree with the following quotes from this chapter on family.
The Christian identity can stand on no person - spouse or child - but on Jesus Christ alone.

Living in a state of constant guilt is living as if Jesus never died.

Christian parenting is not perfect parenting but parenting under the grace of Christ.  Our call is not to be flawless parents, but to point to the Parent who never disappoints.

3.  Appearance

In this chapter, Miller encourages women to use our appearances as bridges to love others.  We are to choose compassion over comparison.  This is true.  We women are so good at comparing ourselves to others or comparing others to others.  Our focus should turn from trying to look good to others to achieving an appearance that leads others to Jesus.

4.  Possessions

In this chapter, we take a look at vanity and greed.  This particular chapter runs parallel to my pastor's current sermon series on generosity.  We are encouraged to be good stewards of all God has given us.  Our possessions are blessings from God to be generously given to others.  The best way to summarize this part of the book is in the following quotes.
The answer to greed is not poverty, but priority.  The source of our contentment and hope should never be our things, but our God.

God is a giver and we are made in His image which means our calling is to give.  Generosity is at the heart of the Christian life and it's our answer to the pain and emptiness of vanity and greed.

In a world held captive by consumerism, vanity, and greed, we are the people of the Giver.

5.  Friendships

In this chapter, Miller writes about loneliness and how it can make us be a better friend to others.  She quotes a valuable lesson from Lysa TerKeurst:  "Being set aside is actually God's call . . . to be set apart."
On the heels of rejection, there is mission. - Sharon Hodde Miller

6.  Your Calling

You read this point correctly.  You can actually make your calling about you.  When we make our calling about us instead of God, we play it safe.  We tend to stay away from the more controversial topics.  We want our audience to like us and we are focused more on our own reputation instead of focusing on God and leading others in the direction of Jesus.  The following quotes from this chapter of Miller's book jumped of the page as I read them.
Whenever your calling is about you, your reputation, your comfort, or your success, disobedience is not far behind.

If wholesome and safe is our compass, then we will always choose convenience over obedience.

Miller goes on to explain how Paul's focus on the glory of God kept him from hate and despair while he was in prison.

7. Your Church

Miller writes that making church about us instead of Jesus, there are consequences:  shallow friendships and a shallow faith.  She goes on to write that although the church is not about us, it is for us.
"We are meant to do life together in a support system of people who love us, sharpen us, and grow us." - Sharon Hodde Miller
Before entering part 3 of Free of Me, Miller gives us a little hint into the next section.  She compares our tendencies to either remain self-centered or to others focused to a piano.  Our spiritual "free of me" walk with the Lord needs routine "tuning."  Otherwise, like a piano which fades out of tune over time, we slip back into a self focused life.  She introduces 4 ways to remain "free of me:"  Praise, People, Purpose, and Passion.

Miller tells us that the above list is not exhaustive and tells us about two other resources that might also help us stay Jesus-focused and others-focused.

In her chapter on praise, Miller explains that praise and worship is not just something we do to check off our christian checklist, but they are a way of life which turns our focus off of ourselves and back to the goodness of God.  We praise the things we enjoy because praise completes our enjoyment.  When there is good news to share, we will burst if we try to keep it a secret.  Good news is meant to be shared.  Praising God isn't something we occasionally do to make us feel better or get us past our insecurities, but praising God and worshiping Him is a way of life for the christian.  We can take time to praise God on our own, but we were meant for community.
"Worship belongs in the context of community, because the truth is, some days we can't bring ourselves to do it.  It's too hard.  The darkness is too heavy and the grief too close . . . That is why the story of God has always been a story of a people.  Worshiping God is not something "you" do alone, but something "we" do together." - Sharon Hodde Miller

You can and should worship and praise God when you are alone, but Miller is correct when she writes that we were made for community.  Worshiping and praising God within our communities is a blessing that God tells us that we should not forsake.

In her chapter on people, Miller teaches us that when we are in a self-focused crisis, healing comes in loving others.
There is a whole world out there of brokenness and poverty and hunger and pain, begging to hear the good news of Christ, but we will never reach them if we're too focused on building our best lives now. - Sharon Hodde Miller

The section on purpose was particularly interesting to me because I have struggled to find my purpose for the second half of my life.  One paragraph stood out the most to me.
How do we discern the difference between God-given purposes and lesser ones?  Just look at their fruits.  A God-given purpose hemmed in by the boundaries of Sabbath, Spirit, Scripture, and wise counsel, will produce love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self control (Galatians 5:22-23).  Lesser purposes manifest in behavior like gossip, busybodying, stressing, and raging.  They parade all over the internet as scrutiny, name-calling, and endless empty hours on Pinterest.  In the absence of true purpose, we swing between outrage and insecurity, judging other parents on their parenting or tearing down strangers out of envy.  We do this because we are desperate for validation and meaning. What appears to be self-righteousness is often a soul crying out for significance.  

Then Miller goes on to say:

When we identify our purpose and use our gifts for God, it's fulfilling.  It makes us more like Christ, it delivers us from worthless endeavors, and it saves us from the quiet desperation of living for ourselves.

In her chapter about passion, Miller explains that true passion "has more to do with sacrifice than strong emotion."  Most of this chapter teaches us that true passion means joining Christ in His suffering.  We learn to die to self so that we can live for Him.

Sharon Hodde Miller's book, Free of Me, takes us into a deep dive into understanding how and why life is better when it is about God and not about us.  I'll end with her last statement because it sums it all up well.
Don't settle for a focus that is partially about Christ but mostly about you.  Messages about your worth and your belonging are good, but they are also too small a thing, and you were meant for more. - Sharon Hodde Miller
 Check out Sharon's blog at She Worships.

Free of Me:  Why Life is Better When It's Not About You by Sharon Hodde Miller
Free of Me by Sharon Hodde Miller is available here.

Free of Me:  Why Life is Better When It's Not About You by Sharon Hodde Miller
Free of Me:  Why Life is Better When It's Not About You by Sharon Hodde Miller

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